So, so well said. Encouraging people to be honest about their struggles with or without faith is such a reassuring thing to do. This article has made me think that maybe it is all about the anger I feel that has made me lose faith.
The whole concept of a God just so rapidly stopped making sense. It was like suffering a stroke. I will always question why God chose this path of pain for me. First my best friend, then my son and six weeks later my father. My life is forever changed. I miss them all but my son was 23 years old and I prayed every day and night for God to protect my children and guide them every day.
So yes I am very angry at God. So many struggle with faith issues, even those who thought they were doing everything right.
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We must remember, we are living in a fallen world. God gave us free will and when we exercise this free will, we can hurt ourselves and others. Free will is in everything: in corporations that poison our environment with deadly chemicals that cause cancers; in the drunk driver that kills an innocent family; in the shooter who kills kids in schools.
We suffer the consequences. Rather than being angry with God, be angry with the terrible choices others are making.
Grief - Compassionate Friends
And then draw close to God and ask Him for comfort and guidance. When we make a commitment to know God and obey Him, He is there for us. Pain will enter our lives, but God is our Comfort. One thing that really gets to me is if god is going to take our loved ones and assuming we are religious why does he not come to us or send an angel to come down and comfort us letting us know that our loved one is truly doing well and is waiting for us when the time comes.
If this simple act was done it would take away so much of the pain and allow us to move on. I tragically lost my days away, from being my husband- in a horrible accident involving heavy equipment, in our back yard 7months ago today.
Helping Someone Who’s Grieving
Why the suffering?? Why should I believe???? My heart truly goes out to all of you. Watching someone that you love die from this horrible disease is Horrifying, Agonizing, and just fills your whole being with excruciating pain. I am watching my dad die from brain cancer and the sorrow is just like a storm that never passes.
I have come to realize that this is a hard cross to bear and one that I thought I would never have to deal with. May God help me get through this and may God help all of you. I feel your pain and truly understand your feelings. My mother died 4 weeks ago. I was with her the 2 weeks before and stayed with my dad for 2 weeks after. I saw so many signs of God,s existence and grace all through the time. My parents instilled a great love of God and strong sense of belief that I passed on to my children. I have felt such comfort from this belief. Just this week thoughts of worry about mom have started creeping into my daily thoughts.
How do I know heaven really exists? What if everything I believe is a lie? Is this normal?
masunbcomeer.tk Susan … you pain is palpable. You sorrow,seemingly unbearable. You lash out at God, yet you know in your heart and very soul that it is HE and HE alone who can provide the peace you so desperately seek and need. That you will find peace, rest, and assurance, despite your terrible travails. May God bless and keep you.
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Profound sadness is probably the most universally experienced symptom of grief. You may have feelings of emptiness, despair, yearning, or deep loneliness. You may also cry a lot or feel emotionally unstable. You may also feel guilty about certain feelings e. After a death, you may even feel guilty for not doing something to prevent the death, even if there was nothing more you could have done. If you lost a loved one, you may be angry with yourself, God, the doctors, or even the person who died for abandoning you. You may feel the need to blame someone for the injustice that was done to you.
A significant loss can trigger a host of worries and fears. You may feel anxious, helpless, or insecure.
You may even have panic attacks. The death of a loved one can trigger fears about your own mortality, of facing life without that person, or the responsibilities you now face alone. We often think of grief as a strictly emotional process, but grief often involves physical problems, including:. The pain of grief can often cause you to want to withdraw from others and retreat into your shell. But having the face-to-face support of other people is vital to healing from loss.
Comfort can also come from just being around others who care about you. The key is not to isolate yourself. Turn to friends and family members. Now is the time to lean on the people who care about you, even if you take pride in being strong and self-sufficient. They may feel unsure about how to comfort you and end up saying or doing the wrong things. Draw comfort from your faith. If you follow a religious tradition, embrace the comfort its mourning rituals can provide. Spiritual activities that are meaningful to you—such as praying, meditating, or going to church—can offer solace.
Join a support group. Grief can feel very lonely, even when you have loved ones around. Sharing your sorrow with others who have experienced similar losses can help. To find a bereavement support group in your area, contact local hospitals, hospices, funeral homes, and counseling centers, or see the Resources section below. Talk to a therapist or grief counselor. If your grief feels like too much to bear, find a mental health professional with experience in grief counseling.
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